I like to practice physical martial arts. In fact, I think rigorous practice over the years allows me to stay active and get along well with my fifties due to muscle memory from training for over 30 years. I’m still resilient and strong and I feel as if my aging body isn’t working… well… all that bad!
Physical exercise isn’t the only thing in my “muscular” memory. My brain has learned a thing or two along the way. I changed my way of thinking from being a woman who based every decision on fear — fear of failure, fear of what others would think, fear of not being good enough at anything — to a woman with confidence. I’ve decided during my years in the martial arts that I have nothing to lose by trying, and everything to gain. Fortunately, I introduced martial arts and tried and learned that I can improve every day and that it doesn’t matter if I fail at first or if others fail to support or encourage me. The important thing is that I strive to become more positive, powerful and productive every day of my life.
never give up
Martial arts also taught me how to beat it. The air in the dojo is full of effort and diligence and learning martial arts creates a situation where you are They don’t have a chance to give up. You never think of saying “I can’t do this” because when you look around, everyone tries without complaining about it. Your teacher looks at you with confidence. Wanting to fit in and try something new all the time becomes the name of the game. You discover that if they can do it, you can. Suddenly it stimulates new growth in your brain.
I am strong, capable and able to learn. Nothing can stop me now.
You can learn and understand this mindset without being a martial artist. Just reading this blog post may be the motivation you need to step back and re-evaluate the way you think about yourself. Perhaps today is the day you understand that fear is preventing you from being the person you really want to be. Taking the first step on a new journey is scary but also exciting! Where will you lead? How do you build on it every day?
On a Friday morning, I co-hosted the Java Buzz morning talk show (9:30 ET) on Facebook with two martial arts sisters (https://www.facebook.com/thejavabuzz/). Among other inspiring and fun topics, we talk about coffee, our lives, show flashback Friday pictures, and play trivia games. We share motivational quotes and insights on my favorite part of the show and explore ideas about “mindset” and how a positive outlook creates a positive life. We recently talked about how taking the first step on the stairs begins to climb to something higher. You must take action to make positive changes in your life and achieve your goals, you must put fear aside and believe in yourself.
This martial arts mentality gives me the courage to move forward. This does not mean that I will be successful in every endeavor, but it does allow me to never regret not trying and never to question myself or my ambitions. When I try something new, I can always tweak or change it if it doesn’t work the first time. Or I can choose a new path. There are options for every choice and decision. When I was a white belt, I was on the very low first step. Then I got on the next belt and went up one more step. Before I knew it, I was at the top of the stairs with a black belt wrapped around my waist for my efforts. Nobody can take this experience from me.
I still practice the physical aspects of martial arts. I love pushing the boundaries with my online tai chi kicks and lessons on Saturday mornings. I enjoy teaching martial arts to women who don’t have martial arts experience. Whether I’m a student or a coach, I never forget the importance of a positive mindset and why taking the first step in any endeavor is so important. I never knew I would become a motivator, blogger, podcaster, and author. Nothing like this would ever have happened if I hadn’t reduced my fear and made the first move.
Where are you going?
I am so excited to see where your journey will lead you. Don’t underestimate yourself. You are capable of amazing things!
Links and information:
Martial Arts Woman Book: https://amzn.to/3inNiuQ
Martial arts inspiration for everyone: https://amzn.to/3irRjyy
How to start your own martial arts program: https://amzn.to/3zf0aJB
Martial Arts Woman Podcast: https://anchor.fm/andrea-harkins
The Martial Arts Woman on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-03avS893n8UJdJNWibeWw
Java Buzz on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrLHps-wjzGG2my6diR5L4g